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Larry Kurdek with his beloved dogs, Gretta, left, and Lilly. Kurdek was a professor in the Department of Psychology until his passing in 2009.<\/p><\/div>\n

To the Wright State University community, the late Larry Kurdek was best known as an outstanding teacher and professor of psychology<\/a>. To the rest of the world, he was regarded as one of the leading social science researchers on lesbian and gay committed relationships.<\/p>\n

While Kurdek authored more than 145 journal publications in the fields of commitment and satisfaction in family relationships, he was never one to be boastful about his work.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe was a very modest man and would never bring attention to himself,\u201d said Gene Siesky, who was Kurdek\u2019s partner for 32 years. \u201cHe was quite content to just be acknowledged by his peers.\u201d<\/p>\n

When Kurdek\u2019s 10-year longitudinal study on same-sex cohabiting couples and heterosexual married couples was published in the American Psychologist, multiple news sources picked up on it. Kurdek was even invited to appear on “Good Morning America,” but he declined.<\/p>\n

\u201cLarry said he was a researcher, not a pop psychologist,\u201d Siesky recalled. \u201cI said to him in jest, \u2018what are you going to do when Oprah calls?\u2019 He said, \u2018I\u2019ll decline her too.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

While Kurdek may have been hesitant of the media spotlight, he did not share the same reticence about expressing pride in his upbringing. Born to a Polish family on the south side of Chicago, Larry grew up with his fraternal twin brother, Leonard, and three other siblings \u2014 including a set of twin girls.<\/p>\n

\u201cBeing Polish was important to Larry,\u201d said Siesky. \u201cIt was a big part of his identity.\u201d<\/p>\n

Kurdek received his bachelor\u2019s degree in psychology from Loyola University of Chicago and his doctorate in developmental psychology from the University of Illinois at Chicago.<\/p>\n

After completing his doctorate in 1976, he accepted an assistant professor position at Wright State, where he quickly rose through the academic ranks \u2014 becoming professor in 1984 \u2014 and where he remained for his entire career.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe loved teaching,\u201d said Siesky. \u201cHe was a person who enjoyed teaching others, helping them learn.\u201d<\/p>\n

Kurdek was frequently rated as an outstanding teacher by his students in the Department of Psychology. He also taught research methodology and statistics courses as an adjunct faculty member in the School of Professional Psychology.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe was highly regarded there as well,\u201d said Siesky.<\/p>\n

As much as Kurdek enjoyed teaching, he found the greatest fulfillment in his research.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe was very proud of his 10-year longitudinal study,\u201d said Siesky. \u201cThere wasn\u2019t one that existed prior.\u201d<\/p>\n

For more than a decade, Kurdek sent relationship surveys to heterosexual cohabiting, married and remarried couples, gay couples and lesbian couples. The inclusion of large numbers of gay and lesbian couples had not been done before on such a scale.<\/p>\n

Kurdek\u2019s research found that the factors predicting relationship satisfaction, commitment and stability were remarkably similar for both same-sex cohabiting couples and heterosexual married couples. His work was prominently featured in amicus briefs that the American Psychological Association (APA) filed in court cases challenging marriage laws in New Jersey, Connecticut, California, Iowa and elsewhere.<\/p>\n

Kurdek also helped craft the APA\u2019s Resolution on Sexual Orientation and Marriage, in which the association committed itself to \u201ctake a leadership role in opposing all discrimination in legal benefits, rights and privileges against same-sex couples.\u201d He also helped to develop the APA\u2019s Resolution on Sexual Orientation, Parents and Children, where the association went on record opposing \u201cany discrimination based on sexual orientation in matters of adoption, child custody and visitation, foster care and reproductive health services.\u201d<\/p>\n

In 2003, Kurdek received the Award for Distinguished Scientific Contributions from the Society for the Psychological Study of Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Issues.<\/p>\n

While Kurdek was deeply devoted to his teaching and research, he was also passionate about the other great loves in his life: family, music and dogs.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe was always a lover of dogs,\u201d said Siesky, who shared cockapoos, Gretta and Lilly, with Kurdek.<\/p>\n

During the final year of his life, Kurdek researched the emotional bonds between people and their dogs. He published the paper \u201cPet dogs as attachment figures\u201d in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, where he documented the similarities between the attachments that people form with their dogs and the attachments that they form with other humans.<\/p>\n

Kurdek died on June 11, 2009, following a four-year-long battle with cancer. He passed away peacefully at home with his beloved dogs by his side \u2014 just as he had wanted. He was 57 years old.<\/p>\n

In his blog, Beyond Homophobia, Gregory Herek wrote that Kurdek\u2019s \u201cpremature passing is a great loss to the field of psychology and to everyone who supports marriage equality.\u201d<\/p>\n

A brother\u2019s love<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prior to his passing, Kurdek established the Larry Kurdek Memorial Scholarship at Wright State. While the fund has distributed small scholarships over the years to students studying psychology, it will soon make an even greater impact in the lives of students.<\/p>\n

Kurdek\u2019s twin brother, Leonard, passed away in October 2021. Unbeknownst to Siesky and the rest of the Kurdek family, Leonard left almost all of his estate to his brother\u2019s scholarship fund. The estate gift was substantial enough to create an endowment, which will allow Kurdek\u2019s scholarship to continue for perpetuity.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe were quite surprised,\u201d said Siesky. \u201cLenny loved his brother and held him in high regard. Through the scholarship, Larry could carry the flag for the family and his name would be there forever.\u201d<\/p>\n

Siesky has helped select prior recipients of Kurdek\u2019s scholarship and will continue to be involved in selecting the recipients of the Dr. Larry Kurdek Endowed Scholarship.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I read their stories, I get a sense of how much this could help someone,\u201d he said. \u201cLarry was a very generous person. He would want the scholarship to go to a deserving student who could benefit from the financial help.\u201d<\/p>\n

Siesky looks forward to meeting future recipients of the scholarship and introducing them to not only Larry Kurdek, the teacher and researcher, but the man who loved family, music and dogs.<\/p>\n

\u201cEverybody liked Larry,\u201d he said. \u201cI never met a single person that didn\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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